Comments on: Don’t Passive-Aggressive-Smile-Face-ME

By: Ana Lucia

Ana Lucia — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 23:37:46 +0000

the mom is totally right’ yes the parents are obligated to raise kids w/o expecting anything in return but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t give them anything in return because we can never repay our parents for what they have done for us anyway
the kid is a jerk for asking their mom to stay at a hotel ughhhh
it’s your mom not your friend
and letting your mom stay at your house is in no way enough to repay one iota of what her mom gave her and she still doesn’t want to
that is rotten i’m sorry
it’s not good to guilt trip kids but still….

By: Gabriel

Gabriel — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:30:33 +0000

and parents are obligated to do a good job raising you without expecting anything back at all. you don’t have babies for your own sake, and if you do that’s selfish. they chose to have a kid, they should take some personal responsibility and not try to take advantage of their children by acting like the children owe them anything. adults don’t relate like that. tragically a lot of people are psychologically messed up because their parents were immature, then their kids go and have kids and do the same thing.

By: Gabriel

Gabriel — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 16:26:38 +0000

to which you should respond: well I guess if I was that much trouble you should have just aborted me. -sign off- lol

it’s funny if she’s joking but I don’t tolerate that guilt trip bs

By: LiLi

LiLi — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:52:15 +0000

geeez you’re all very bitter! this is totally a joke!!!!

By: Marcia

Marcia — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 23:26:49 +0000

My mom would have taken it to a new level and talked about how she pushed me out of her vagina and how I sucked her teat for 6 months…she wouldn’t have been happy to just say I lived in her uterus, but that is my mom…and yes, she would have told me to eff off too.

By: feistyone

feistyone — Wed, 06 May 2009 03:56:18 +0000

Posts 53 through 64, please read the son’s explanation at #52!!! Living in a tiny place myself and not having a pull out couch, I’d have to tell my parents to stay at a nearby hotel…then they would get a real breakfast and good coffee, too!

By: Me

Me — Wed, 06 May 2009 02:30:10 +0000

Hahahhaha, that’s awesome. My mom would say something like that, except without the FO. lol. :)

By: Mandy

Mandy — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 13:50:08 +0000

Selfish really.

I couldn’t imagine telling my mom to hit a hotel while she came to visit me. I would be happy to open my home to her. For Pete’s sakes she raised me. What is one week going to do for you that is worth your mother’s happiness for a few days? Suck it up and don’t be so selfish.

GO MOM!!

By: Heather

Heather — Mon, 13 Apr 2009 13:28:20 +0000

OMG this is EXACTLY the type of conversation i would have with my mother

By: bert bogert

bert bogert — Mon, 16 Mar 2009 01:07:50 +0000

this mom seems like a massive douchebag!

By: kelE

kelE — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 13:40:26 +0000

Effie- I am sorry you’re having such a rough time with your parents.

By: effie

effie — Sun, 22 Feb 2009 00:25:24 +0000

so parents have kids so they can extort and guilt trip them later?

weird.

families are messed up.

and take a look at the language being used in these posts.

someone said they hope the poster is cut out of the will— what, moms are only good for money once they are dead? what kind of thinking is THAT?

what would really be great is if parents could just appreciate their children for who they have grown up to be. whenever i see my family, it’s nothing but criticism masquerading as “helpfulness”
ie. you’ll find the “one”

whenever i tell some kind of story about what im up to, it’s always turned into an opportunity for them to impart some old school wisdom i never asked for- it goes from a conversation to a lecture about my life in a snap. and never mind the often racist, sexist, heterosexist overtones involved.

so when adults dont want their parents around for that long, maybe some of the BS parents pull on their kids has everything to do with it.

just sayin.

By: Dray

Dray — Sat, 01 Nov 2008 22:36:30 +0000

Ahh, this sounds like how my mother and I talk to each other. We make jabs at each other all the time. Why? Because apparently unlike SOME people, we are actually close enough that it doesn’t hurt either of our feelings.

Those that get pissed off about it need to lighten up. Seriously.

And Deb? Go back up and read Poster’s reply, a few comments up (#52) if you’ve not already, before you assume that it’s a mother-daughter conversation. (I don’t mean to rag on you for it, but sometimes I can’t help it.)

By: Deb

Deb — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 23:58:36 +0000

Wait! Why is everybody dumping on the daughter? In about 10-15 years, my daughter will make a similar offer to me, b/c she knows my husband would always rather stay in a hotel.

I thought it seemed like an attempt by the daughter to say, “You’d probably be more comfy in a hotel, but of course you can stay with me.”

The whole exchange made me laugh out loud and want to get to know this pair.

By: violetaqua

violetaqua — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 23:28:40 +0000

As a mum with grown sons, I can totally feel the humor and bittersweet recognition of love with rejection that moms feel coming head on with their kid’s independence. There is a kind of, Yeah, I know I am an obligation… bt can’t you pretend you want me around type of feeling… Still, this mom, and son have a good relationship… he calls her on her attempts at manipulation, she tells him to fuck off and dealwith it.. all done with love by the way.

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By: berryjo

berryjo — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 17:31:22 +0000

Oh, my father-in-law hates to even be in our bedroom, let alone sleep in our bed! Before we had a second bedroom he actually preferred to sleep on our hardwood floors than take our bed! Nothing I said would convince him otherwise. He was clearly weirded out by the notion of sleeping where his son had so many good times.

By: Arg

Arg — Fri, 12 Sep 2008 13:04:58 +0000

This summer both my mother and my boyfriend’s mother came to visit. (As a side note, my boyfriend is literally twice my age, hence my mother is slightly younger than him and his mother is my grandmother’s age…) When his mom showed up he gave her our bedroom (which she EXPECTED) while he and I had to sleep on the couch and our dogs got banished to the kitchen. When she found out that I was refusing to let my mother have my bedroom when she visited, his mother was basically outraged. She gave me the whole “she gave birth to you ect ect” speach. I had the last laugh because when I told my mom about all this she said, “HELL NO I would NEVER sleep in your bed… I’m fine on the couch. God knows what you all DO in there…”

Love my Ma!

By: kellyg

kellyg — Mon, 08 Sep 2008 18:07:58 +0000

Maybe there is a very good reason why you would’t want a mom who tells you to FO to stay at your place for a few days…

By: Poster

Poster — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 08:39:19 +0000

I love the dialogue ma’s IM has inspired. To speak to speculation:
* Yes, I live in a tiny one bedder, and most nights share it with my boyfriend (NB: I, too, am a boy)
* Yes, she and my dad (they’re both coming, folks) have the means to cover hotels
* Yes, we will enjoy each other’s company FAR more when we can go home to our own spaces at the end of the day
We have an awesome relationship. Being able to lovingly and jokingly tell each other to FO is something that I treasure and hope to have with my own kids one day. Rock on, mom, just rock on around the corner and I’ll catch you at happy hour.
:)