Me: I’m piercing my nose
Mom: Fine, I’m not raising your illegitimate children.
Me: What?
Mom: You’ll pierce your nose, get a trashy boyfriend and end up with illegitimate children. You and your trashy boyfriend are not living in my house, and neither are your kids.
Me: Wow mom, thanks for the credit. Clearly that’s the natural progression after piercing your nose.
Well..until like 3 years ago, I said the same things to my teens. I have a 17 year old daughter and my sons are 16 and 18. In the last few years, I have met the perfect man who appreciates the real me. The new me now has a huge goth fairy in the center of my back, 2 brow rings, upper ear, both lobes, a labret piercing, and my navel. About to get the private area done, and a second tat which is dedicated to my recently killed brother. No, to other moms, we are not trash. My brother was a police officer, mom a nurse, father an engineer for NASA, and other brother a comp tech for one of the largest hospitals in the nation. My kids love me and respect me, for I am opened minded enough to want myself and my children to be the real ppl that we are. We are not wrong or evil, we are unique. Allow ur kids to love themselves….they will love and respect you for it. Btw, I’m 40 and lovin it!
January 31, 2009 at 1:23 am
When I told my mom-in-law i wanted one, she told me I would not be allowed in her house. I simply stated that if I had known that I would have done it years ago.
February 3, 2009 at 10:44 pm
Firstly, brava for jess! My mother told me not to come home some 29 years ago when I first pierced my nose. I was in S.E. Asia teaching after a stint with the Un in West Africa. There was no Thanksgiving Dinner for me on that return visit. I finally grew tired of the shock and awe and removed my nose piercing. Yes, I regretted it. Two days (many years later) ago I re-pierced. The world has changed thought I, people are affected by new geographies on and off-line. Apparently not…
My 22 year-old son, whom I thought to be very open to different notions of beauty said, and I quote, “Did you ask dad’s permission?” This comes after his father’s meltdown, another “open-minded democrat,” who left our loft in the arts district while stating emphatically that he would not look at me until I removed the piercing. And by the way, didn’t I think I should have asked his, yes–permission. My husband it seems is of the “booger” ilk, only golden, like JB (#21). What is stunning in all of this is the narrowness. My husband, my son, and JB for that matter may not appreciate nose piercings. However, there are others who most certainly do. Further, the expectation that a woman should be expected to ask permission of a man to pierce her nose seems like back-peddling to me. I am a Ph.D. candidate and have lived and worked in West Africa, S.E. Asia, the Middle East, and across the U.S. I certainly think we all need to be sensitive to our partners wishes, on the other hand, there are some compromises that ought never be made.
February 9, 2009 at 3:21 am
this is so not my mom. She acctually agreed to me getting me nose pierced. So yeah.
February 9, 2009 at 10:23 pm
well i just looked this up, as ive booked in for a nose pierce, which my husband thinks is a weird thing to want to do. Im 28 and have no other piercing or tattoos just double ears pierced, but ive seen other people with them and I like them and I just think I would like one so I dont look so plain jane. As Madonna says, express yourself dont repress yourself. What do you think? Im not concerned about any pain, as Ive been through childbirth!
February 13, 2009 at 10:34 pm
yepppppppppppp
im gonn get my nose pierced 2marrow , i can’t wait!!
my mom is okay bout it , its just my dad dunt think i m old enough to get it (im 18….very very mature) plus im paki…
not so unusual to get a nose ring.!!
February 14, 2009 at 9:21 pm
I’m 18 and just got my nose pierced. I’d told my mom for years that I’d wanted to do it, and she was fine with it. Then again, she was the first in the family to get a tattoo (just a few years ago), so she really couldn’t say anything to me without being hypocritical. the only rule she had was that I had to pay for it (she had paid for both sets ear piercings). My dad was not so excited about it, but resigned to simply ask why I “wanted another hole in my head”, like he said when I got my ears pierced for the second time.
February 14, 2009 at 9:29 pm
When I turned 16 my dad tried to talk me into going and getting a tattoo with him. (which I didn’t) But then he freaked out when I got my ears double pierced in college. I’ve figured out that if my parents know about it before I do it, then they’re fine with it.
February 16, 2009 at 8:37 am
i ask my mom alot and she always says “no you will never get a job with that” and “your going to attract the wrong kind of guy” and “when you decide to take it out your going to be stuck with a hole forever” but idc about those things well the wrong kinda guy thing yes but i know how to take care of myself and im perfectly happy with my boyfriend and he’s a good guy :) btw im 14 what do i do i want it pierced so bad i can’t stand itt!
February 19, 2009 at 4:41 pm
Laramie, unfourtunatly your mom is right in some ways with this one…you need to ask yourself WHY….why do you want a piercing? Is it because it looks “cool”? Do all your friends have one? What is it that appeals to you? Do yourself a favor and wait. Wait a year or two just to make sure that this is not “just a phase” you are going through. After giving it some deep thought (and time) ask your parents again. Getting a job is a little tougher with a facial piercing even today. Usually a company has some form of “dress code” prohibiting piercing and tattoos. All I am saying is you are very young and have a lot of time to decide if this is “right” for you. Respect your parents feelings (atleast until your 18).
February 23, 2009 at 11:19 pm
I’ve had my nose pierced for a couple years now.
I got it the second i turned 18. I’ve wanted one honestly ever since middle school but figured it was appropriate to wait until I was of legal age. My parents were always against it and since they were essentially supporting me up until that point, I thought the most respectful thing to do was to wait.
So for all those 14 year olds out there who just HAVE to have a nose piercing RIGHT NOW….. wait.
If you still want it when you’re 18, you’ll appreciate it more.
And your parents will love you more for it. Don’t go behind their back and pierce it. (and especially don’t pierce it yourself! ow~!)
Btw: I plan on taking out the piercing when I graduate from college. I lovelovelove my ring more than anything, but I don’t want a silly thing like that to prevent me from getting a job.
February 25, 2009 at 10:18 pm
I’m 14 and i REELY wanna get my nose pierced…i asked my mom if i could nd she sed no cuz its ugly. i defintilii don think theyre uglii…i told one of my teachers i wanted to get my nose pierced[[he's lyke a second dad to me]] nd he sed it’d look lyke a cow cuz onlii cowz hav theyre noses pierced. i tried to do it myself but i didnt finish it cuz my b/f who i love told me to stop nd tha hole closed but i still reely wanna get it pierced. when i tried doing it by myself it hurt lyke hell!!! i just want tha stud though i dont think it would look uglii…i think theyre prettii actuallii…but i hav heard of jobs that dont allow facial piercings so i’ll wait to get mine done.
February 26, 2009 at 8:18 pm
I just got my nose pierced today! I am 18 (have been since May ‘08) and have wanted to pierce my nose for a very long time. I agree with many people that say that say that you shouldn’t do it before it is legal and without your parents permission. I did not ask my parent’s permission since I am 18 and living away from home at college, but I am going to call my mom tonight and let her know. (I am super nervous about that because she is pretty conservative…oh well…)
My friend told me that when I call her to tell her I should be like “OK mom, either I am pregnant, an alcoholic, a druggie, have been kicked out of college, or I got my nose pierced. Which would you rather?”
My dad has always told me that if any of his kids get a piercing then he will get a matching one…haha…he will look very funny with his nose pierced…LOL
also about the main post. My mom might say something to that effect but I am a very picky person about guys (which can be shown through the fact that I have never had a boyfriend ever and also through the fact that guys have never been interested in me so far that way (someday though)) and I have never had a boyfriend and also never had sex (and don’t plan to till I am married) so therefore there will be no illegitimate children…LOL
February 28, 2009 at 11:39 pm
I HAD MY NOSE DONE BUT I TOOK IT OUT CUZ I HAD A BUBBEL FORMIN ON IT SO I AM GOIN 2 GET IT DONE AGAIN FRIDAY OR SATURDAY
March 9, 2009 at 2:09 pm
MY MOM THINKZ IT SEXIE ON ME
March 9, 2009 at 2:11 pm
When i was 16 my sister took me to get my nose pierced. And my mom loved it. A week later I got my lip done, at first my mom was like Why did u do it. But after a week or so she got over it and she started to really like it. After having my lip done for 8 months it started to get infected so I took it out. In January I riped my nose ring out in the middle of the night. So about 2 weeks ago my mom took my to get it re-pierced. She also wants my to get my lip done again , so I might go next week to do it. btw I’m 17 now.
March 11, 2009 at 4:43 pm
im currently 13 about to turn 14 in july and i talked to my mom about getting my nose pierced and all she told me was for your birthday and i said ok then thats fine with me bc thts not tht long from now but my friends bday is 6 days after mine and were getting our noses pierced together and i cant wait the only thing im really concerned about is how much its gonna hurt i mean ive got both of my cartlidges (tops of my ears) pierced and tht didnt hurt too bad jus afterwords it was really sore but imma have to see how it all works out
March 15, 2009 at 3:59 pm
im currently 13 and about to turn 14 in july… me an dmy friend talked to my mom aboout getting it done and she said she will think about it… thats my friend danielle:) and we are only six days apart (shes older tho)… and we wanted to get it done for our birthdays….:) but other than that i dont think i will up with a trashy boyfriend and im not havin sex anyyyyyytimeeeee soon…. so yeah anyways thats it!!!!!!!
March 15, 2009 at 4:08 pm
this is totally my mom when i asked her if i can get a nose ring she said “what are you crazy !”
March 15, 2009 at 9:01 pm
I’m getting my nose pierced in about 3 hours !
it was my moms idea
haha
I’m so excited !
March 28, 2009 at 9:49 am
my mom was so opposite she went with me and even had her nose pierced with me. hehehe. my other mom laughed at me and said it was gross. my dad that came with my mom and me just said it was stupid to add more wholes but got over it fast hehehe. i just got my belly button pierced and my mom loved it she just said it was cute on me. hehehe, i guess some mom’s are just weird. although my dad has said that other than making my nose piercing the problem for it hehehe.
March 28, 2009 at 3:53 pm
I got my nose pierced 3 weeks ago and I love it! However my mom passed 10 yrs ago but not before I had about 5 tats and 6 holes in my ears. She never said anything about any of it. I do keep my tats small, I have 7 now, and where I work nobody would know. Even with 7 tats and 6 holes in my ears I will only wear a tiny stud in my nose because I work in a grocery store. And can you believe that I’m not really a big fan of nose RINGS. Just the tiny stud. And I just told my husband that I was going to do it. He still loves me! BTW I will be 48 this year.
March 29, 2009 at 9:29 am
Where did all the 14 year old kids come from?
This is hilarious because I’ve heard my friends’ moms say that to them. I had my eyebrow, lip and tongue pierced from 15-on. I’m now 25 and I have none of them.
I’d much rather a job.
March 29, 2009 at 8:29 pm
Courtney @ 39: Oh honey–whether your mom is “right” or not, it is her house and until you can afford not only to pierce your nose, but the mortgage/rent on the roof over your head; the payment/insurance on the car your drive or the cost of public transportation if you don’t drive; all of the food that goes into your mouth; and all of the clothes on your back, you really need to respect her wishes. Listen to the poster who said waiting until you are on your own makes it that much sweeter. That having been said, I cannot imagine a mom who would kick their child out of the house for such a minor thing. Maybe make her take it out until she goes off to college… ;)
Clotilde @ 53: Wow, oh wow…your husband SO DOES NOT HAVE THE RIGHTS the mom above does. You are a grown woman and should NOT have to ask your husband’s “permission” to do anything to your body. This made me so mad I couldn’t see straight!
March 30, 2009 at 7:09 am
I’m 13 years old nd at first my mom didn’t like the idea but she gave in ad I’m going on the 29 of April
April 5, 2009 at 10:58 pm
my mom didn’t want me to get my nose pierced because she somehow convinced herself that nose rings hark back to A) India, where according to my mother women have been considered inferior to men for ages and therefore their nose piercings are a symbols of such, or B) to the days of slavery, during which time it was apparently common for slaves to have septum piercings and as such getting ANY type of nose piercing would recall this outrage.
I promise she’s not ignorant. just delusional.
April 6, 2009 at 3:09 pm
I just want to start off by saying all of you 13 and 14 year olds who are dead set on getting your nose pierced and other piercing, just wait! i am turning 18 on the 25th and i am just now getting my ears double pierced and my nose pierced. My parent are a lil on the conservative side but because i have waited until im 18 they really dont care that much. My mom might even go with me before my b-day to go and get them done, only so they can heal before i have to have a shoulder surgey. ( i dont know why i just said all that lol) any ways, i still say wait till you are of legal age. and to the people who say that all the piercing and tatoos attract the wrong tpye of people, who are you to say what the right type is for somebody ( even if they are your childrens boyfriends or girlfriends).
April 7, 2009 at 10:18 pm
I’m going tomorrow to get my nose pierced and I am nervous. When i first got into my piercing I was 18 and i got my tongue pierced, then I got my Nipple and belly button done. Then i got the other nipple done. Believe it or not, mom thought it was awesome. She begged me to get my nose done, and I am 27 now. We look at it as individuality, when ya let someone talk ya out of something that you want to do it is like they take a part of you. Trust me i took all my piercings out just to make things better between my husbands family and I. Big Catholic families and very judgemental. It will always bug me that I did that, that i let someone get to me that way. Ridiculous, and as far as asking your husband for permission. PLEASE! When did they become your momma and own ya. If they said no I would go out that night and do it. hehe!
April 15, 2009 at 6:32 pm
First time I’ve ever posted here, but I couldn’t help myself! I had my tongue pierced 12 years ago. Which means it was done before everyone had one lol. I have my lip pierced and my nose pierced. Both ears are pierced multiple times and I have 5 tattoos so far. I was at a family gathering one day and had my aunt (who first helped me dye my hair when I was 15) ask me if I’d “allow” my children to get piercings or tattoos. I told her no. I will take my children to get their tattoos and/or piercings until they are over 18 and can make their own choices on an artist. In fact, I’ve told all four of my kids that when they turn 16 I will take them and get them a tattoo. She looked at me like I had 2 heads and was shooting flames from my mouth.
My reasons for this are valid. I would ten times rather know who is doing the piercing/inking and what they are getting done than to have them do it themselves or in their friend’s basement with no supervision. I can’t tell them not to do it, but will encourage them to make the decision based on personal choice and not just because everyone is doing it. My family is super religious and I’m the black sheep lol. They love me anyway and that makes everything ok.
April 15, 2009 at 9:53 pm
I think this is completely wrong. I am fifteen years old and my parents we’re perfectly fine with my nose piercing. It took them awhile to say yes. As long as I bought it with my own money. It is not whorish at all. I think you are saying that people that have nose piercings are whores. It’s just a piercing, I think you are making it a big deal.
April 29, 2009 at 3:08 pm
this makes me fell soo lucky that i have such a cool mom ….and plus im 11 years old and my mom is cool with me getting one!!
April 30, 2009 at 9:50 pm
im gettin my nose pierced tuesday . im 15 and my nose willl make my 10th piercing double ear piercing 1 on each ear where it starts in cartilidge 1 cartilidge my tragus and belly button. i recently broke up with my boyfriend of 1 year and a half so clearly just because someone has piercings doesnt mean theyr stupid and gunna end up with a trashy bf, also to prove that piercings dont make you stupid im a sophmore in english honors algebra 2 honors and italian 2 honors and no grades below b’s . so everyone who wants piercings but doesnt get them because of what people say or how they will react , get them! screw the people who stereotype there just people who dont have anything better to do with their life. <3
p.s. i plan on getting my rook and possibly daith 8D
May 2, 2009 at 7:21 pm
I’m 13 and my parents are awesome. I got my ears done before I could walk by my awesome aunt for her wedding. Just a few days ago, I asked if I could get my ears double pierced and my nose done and my dad says he doesn’t care if I get piercings and my mom says it’s okay if my dad gives the thumbs up. I’m going to get my ears and nose done soon, and eventually eyebrow and navel.
May 10, 2009 at 1:50 am
So. Get this. I begged my dad for about a year and a half to get my belly button pierced. That is the only piercing I have on my body. I don’t even have my ears done, surprisingly. I want tattoos when I get older of course, but only two. Now. Back to the nose-ring convo. I asked my dad for that. He said “Absolutely not. I thought you weren’t even going to keep your bellybutton ring.” Wrongggg, I’m keeping it daddy. Haha. And guess what. I’m planning to keep nagging him for the nose ring. Just because you get one, doesn’t mean anything. Doesn’t mean you’ll have a trashy boyfriend, or you’ll have a kid. If you make yourself think that, then it’ll happen. But if you don’t, I highly doubt it. And if you think before you make your choices, you definitely won’t have any problems. But you can’t blame it on a piercing for your future life events. That’s not the piercings fault, after all, it’s just metal. Think about what I said. Even if I am only 15. Someone small can always make a difference you know. :)
May 24, 2009 at 8:37 pm
I honestly always thought parents fight about the little things to stop us from doing the big things. I had to sneak around to start putting make-up on, to have more than one necklace on at school (v. conservative school), wear heels, ‘different cloths’, etc… But whenever I felt I’d ‘won’ one of those victories, I always felt I owed it to the parents to behave since they had been so understanding. Obviously, not my train of thought at the time, but when I look back on it now I think it’s hilarious the way me and most of my friends thought we were being rebellious with piercings, and clothes and music and tats, but at the same time studied hard at school, and most of us ended up with good careers (not necessarily making lots of money, but things we enjoy doing and that bring satisfaction).
One of my really good friends is married to a pastor, and she has a few tats that are visible, and a few piercings, including her nose. The little old ladies at church think it’s sweet, and she says she likes them because it reminds her of when she was ‘wild’ and makes her thankful for what she has now. So everything on your body creates a history, just make sure it’s something you’d be happy to remember, and not ‘I got this done at 14 coz my mum didn’t want me to.’
May 25, 2009 at 4:29 pm
My daughter just came home on her graduation day with a nose piercing… I have to say I’m with the first mom. I think it is gross and disgusting and makes her beautiful intelligent face look cheap and trashy.She could not have upset me more on her graduation day… which was probably the point.
May 29, 2009 at 4:02 pm
I saw a girl who couldn’t have been more than 10 years old with her nose pierced the other day and this was an American child. I totally did a double-take because I couldn’t believe it.
I remember the first time I shaved the under part of my hair… I heard ALL of this from a friend’s mother.
August 15, 2009 at 3:20 am
@dj and this was an American child.
Do you mean white?
August 15, 2009 at 11:02 am
Sorry Rin, but the body mod fad began way back in the late 80’s and most of the people with tongue piercings that I know got them in the early 90’s.
I am all for individual expression but seeing this many people ranging from teens to grans with nose piercings makes me feel unique for having a metal free face ;)
August 18, 2009 at 12:20 am
My mom is going with me to get my nose pierced for my birthday…
August 22, 2009 at 11:13 am
My parents had a weird reaction to me piercing myself. They never wanted to take me and expect saying no, so I just grabbed one of my self piercing earrings, sat in front of the mirror with some cleaner and a grape and pierced my cartilage myself. It hurt cause I went through it slowly cause I freaked out a little after I seen my own blood but after it went through I was fine. They didn’t notice it until about 2 days after and they kinda just asked why and shook their heads… I mean they really couldn’t do much, it was already in my head. My boyfriend freaked more than my parents did when he found out that I pierced it (lol). I wonder what they’re gonna do when I pierce my nose… And I’m indian so this is gonna be funny.
September 16, 2009 at 8:55 pm
My mom didn’t talk to me for weeks after I got mine done! And I had warned her. I think she secretly likes it now though.
September 17, 2009 at 2:08 am
Oh goodness this whole post card is a load of bull. I’m on my way to a bilingual diploma and guess what I’m getting pierced next Friday?
MY NOSE.
Yea this mom needs to grow up a lot. That’s just plain judgmental and idiotic. But a guess is a guess. Even if its the stupidest guess I have ever heard.
October 6, 2009 at 7:55 pm
I’m a 54 year old female and last week I had my upper ear pierced and I LOVE it!! However, my husband now will not even talk to me. Before he started his ‘vow of silence’ he ragged on me about what a ‘follower’ I am and how disgusting the piercing is and how could I do this to my body…yadda, yadda, yadda
I’ve wanted this piercing for years and finally I do it, and now I have to contend with Mr. Sourpuss. BTW, he’s a lot older than me and tries to control me – ‘tries’ being the operative word here.
Any ideas on how to handle this?
Oh, and there’s no way in hell I’m removing my earring!!!!!!
December 15, 2009 at 6:22 pm
My sister, who is 52 with 3 grown kids was actually the first to get her belly button pierced. Her 2 daughters followed her lead.
This might be an old topic but I just got to the site. Great.
January 7, 2010 at 11:13 pm
Hahaha, my mom suggests what she thinks will look good on me. She’s had her eyebrow and lip done but will refuse to let me get anything other than my nose. Gay, yes oh well. They’re our parents.
March 4, 2010 at 6:56 pm