Hey everyone, Doree here.
Happy New Year’s Eve Eve! I guess it’s time to start thinking of some resolutions. It seems way too boring to resort to the old “lose weight-eat better-get more sleep-be nicer” list that I feel like I’ve been making since I was around 14. What are your resolutions for 2009? Anything you’d like to resolve about your mom? Leave ‘em in the comments.
P.S. If you’re looking for the other posts like this, like the one about your hilarious gift experiences, they’re in the News section.
I resolve that in 2009 I will not take any of the money my mom is always trying to give me.
December 30, 2008 at 5:12 pm
I resolve to encourage my mother to take her hormones so my father and I can deal with her!
December 30, 2008 at 5:42 pm
I resolve to reverse my moms regression back to a college student and make her return my calls.
December 31, 2008 at 8:32 am
I resolve that when my mom starts in on me, I will learn to deflect rather than engaging. I resolve that it’s fine by me that I’m never going to be the daughter she wanted, that this is her problem and not mine, and that I am not going to let her bitterness towards me drive me to tears at family dinners during this year.
And when she sends me some forwarded email about things I can be doing better, or a plain old email personally attacking me, I’ll either just delete it or respond with something noncommittal.
December 31, 2008 at 3:34 pm
I resolve to call my mom’s real estate manager and bank lady without the deep sigh and eye roll.
December 31, 2008 at 5:48 pm
I resolve what L resolved.
December 31, 2008 at 11:45 pm
I resolve to be more patient with my mother, knowing that she truly has my best interests at heart, even if her tone of voice says otherwise. I don’t have to react, only listen.
I resolve to try to understand her dreams, either realized or lost, and how they have affected her throughout her life. I won’t ever be able to understand her struggles with an alcoholic mother, three husbands and a lack of self esteem, but I can love.
I resolve to let her be a part of my life, but to also set boundaries. And, when she starts to nag I resolve to gently tell her to back off. My mom is not perfect, but neither am I, and I am so lucky she loved me enough to adopt me, care for me and nag me for 37 years.
January 1, 2009 at 10:34 pm
i resolve to develop my understanding that my mother will always be crazy, there is nothing i can do about it, and strive to never be like her with my own children.
January 3, 2009 at 5:33 pm
I resolve to support my mother through her battle with cancer. No matter what she does that annoys me, I will set my pettiness aside and be there to help her through this trying time with love and compassion.
January 3, 2009 at 10:32 pm
I resolve to not let my mother’s attitude and actions negatively impact my feelings. I will not let her drag me into phone conversations where I do not let her know that I want to get off of the phone and then complain about how long the conversation was. I will realize that her guilt trips are about her low self-esteem and that I can love her and still let my boundaries exist. I further resolve to not talk about her to my sister so often.
January 4, 2009 at 12:04 pm