Backstory: i have a 7mth old baby. she is the first grandchild on both sides. constant grandparent company at our house…told mom i didnt want company friday nite.
I am glad baby did fine this morning. I am praying for her. No, we won’t be coming over tonight. You have made it perfectly clear that you don’t want us “horning” in on the week nights and that you don’t like company on the weekends because that is your only time with her and that is when your friends come over. Our time with her will be on Fridays when I pick her up from the babysitters. Which dad still won’t get much then. But we will honor your wishes. We will suffer from it and (baby) will too. But we will abide
by what you say. Hope you have a good one.
Yeowch! Sounds like a guilt trip my mom’s mom would try to send me on, but not my mom!
February 27, 2009 at 10:44 am
When I was a teenager I read the most wonderful poem by Khalil Gibran called “Children”. That was more than thirty years ago. This grandma would do well to read it too.
February 27, 2009 at 11:35 am
WOW that is an extrodinary guilt trip. I am such a jerk if my mother ever said anything like that to me I would be telling her to “abide my wishes” all of the time. HA!
February 27, 2009 at 1:02 pm
Is your momma Jewish? That’s something my mom would say.
February 27, 2009 at 6:09 pm
My mother died and never had a chance to be a grandma to my daughter. Be grateful for their love and concern. Having family that drives you crazy is a thousand times better than not having family. The holidays are especially unbearable without family.
February 27, 2009 at 7:57 pm
I agree with Deb, yes having your Mum around all the time can be wearing, but believe me, not having her around is far far worse, my Mum died nearly 10 years ago, her grand daughters were eight and ten, and it breaks my heart that they didn’t ever get enough time with my Mum, to see how awesome and loving she was, and how lucky they were to have her as a Grandmother.
I miss my Mum every single day of my life, and I always will.
February 28, 2009 at 7:11 am
It’s well and good (and certainly true) to point out that mothers are missed when they are gone, but I’m sure while your mothers were alive, there were times when they seriously exasperated you and at those times, you had authentic reactions to that exasperation.
March 1, 2009 at 5:16 pm
Exactly Stacey, even the best moms can lay a guilt trip on you. Exasperation doesn’t cancel out love… and remember mom taught you to be this way. LOL
March 1, 2009 at 6:02 pm
My inlaws live 30 minutes away and see our children once every two or three months because they are both alcoholics who refuse to go to rehab. My mother in law probably won’t be alive a few years from now and my children will never have a meaningful relationship with either grandparent. Be grateful that you’ve got parents who want to be a part of your child’s life, even if they drive you crazy while doing it.
March 1, 2009 at 10:41 pm
I don’t see this as guilt’n – I see it as GRANDBABY LOVE.
Babies is the shit. Grandma knows :)
March 2, 2009 at 3:09 pm
this is my mom. shes a sweetheart. and she doesnt get to come over as much as she would like to… she lives across town and my in laws are 3 houses down from us, popping in all the time… it’s not fair. and i probably took alot of that out on my mom. honestly all i said was ‘did it occur to you that we do still have friends and we may like to visit with them this friday night?’ we have been n the middle of moving and life is so hectic with a new baby… it’s like we get NOTHING done EVER. and even when the company is my own family, i want my house to be clean and i feel like i have to entertain them. i love my mom with all my heart and i know she loves me the same. shes going to kill me for this…..i just couldnt pass up the humor in ”we will honor your wishes and suffer…” haha. poor mom.
March 3, 2009 at 11:36 am
Seriously guys? I don’t think it woman is being ungrateful. It is her new child… she wants to be able to spend some time and bond with her baby once in a while. Seems reasonable to me.
November 28, 2009 at 4:00 am