Hello honey,
I am writing you this because I love you
So love is a wonderful thing allaspects it, including handholding and lovemaking. When you reach the lovemaking part of love, you need to be prepared. I know this topic has been a regular discussion, part of the fabric of our life in the kitchen, but it doesn’t hurt to have it again. First, sex is the best when you’re with someone you truly, truly care about and who truly, truly cares about you. And each of you in a loving relationship needs to be responsible to one another. For him, he should know the rule “no glove no love” and you need to think about being on birthcontrol or have handy, the morning after pill. These pills both require a prescription. I am bringing this up because dad and I hope for you healthy and rewarding relationships and because we do not believe in abortion and neither one of us is ready to raise a child. And lord, neither are you.
So anyway, there’s my speech given only out of love.
Mom
Fan-Freaking-Tastic!
June 9, 2009 at 11:41 am
Wait..neither one of them (the parents) is ready to raise a child? So what the hell did they do with this one they’re writing to? My my..
June 9, 2009 at 11:43 am
I was thoroughly hoping to see a note from the submitter saying something along the lines of “I guess I should let them know I’m gay….”
June 9, 2009 at 12:23 pm
Gotta love this mom!!! “No glove, no love” had me LOL. Also, I think she is not ready to raise a grandchild at this stage in her life. This is a wise mom.
June 9, 2009 at 12:24 pm
Wow. I’m still waiting for The Talk from Mom, as are my three sisters (between them there are 10 children…)
June 9, 2009 at 12:40 pm
This is the best post ever! My favorite part: “I know this topic has been a regular discussion, part of the fabric of our life in the kitchen.” I wanna eat dinner at YOUR house.
June 9, 2009 at 2:23 pm
The morning after pill as contraception? Sorry but mum fails “the talk”
June 9, 2009 at 3:23 pm
Submitter,
You are lucky to have such wonderful parents.
By the way, did I mention that I truly, truly care about you?
June 9, 2009 at 6:54 pm
She’s such a wonderful momma…truly cares about you and ur well-being
June 9, 2009 at 8:00 pm
I can’t help but laugh at the irony in “”Neither one of us is ready to raise a child. “
June 9, 2009 at 8:56 pm
Yeah I think the recommendation of the morning after pill as a contraceptive is a little concerning! Hopefully she just meant as a “just in case” last resort type thing. Interesting for someone who doesn’t believe in abortion though, as many people who are against abortion are also against using the morning after pill.
PS: is that true that you need a prescription for morning after pill in what I’m guessing is America? I live in Australia and we can just buy it at the pharmacy now.
June 10, 2009 at 12:12 am
There is so much wrong with this e-mail.
@ Jill D – in most states you do not need a prescription for the morning after pill, you just have to request it at the pharmacy because they keep it behind the counter. If you are under 18, you may need a prescription, not sure.
THE MORNING AFTER PILL IS NOT BIRTH CONTROL! However, I love that mom is pushing her views on her daughter here. Just because mom is against abortion, that means the daughter can’t have one if she decides to? If your daughter is over 18, guess what Mom, it’s her body, her choice. Mom sounds pretty controling here, telling the daughter she is not ready to raise a child. Also suggesting that Mom and Dad would be the ones to raise the daughters baby, wow, who decided that?
June 10, 2009 at 7:33 am
Mom simply says “We don’t believe in abortion,” she doesn’t say it’s wrong or evil or not allowed; I think she gets to have her opinion. And of course the morning-after pill is birth control–the question is whether it’s optimal birth control, and while I would agree that it’s not, I’m with Mom in thinking it’s preferable to an unwanted pregnancy.
In short, I don’t agree with all of this mom’s stands, but I think her willingness to be open about sex and contraception is beneficial to her kid, and that differences in opinion are something that could be discussed between the two of them.
June 10, 2009 at 8:00 am
Wow, people…lighten up!
June 10, 2009 at 8:45 am
K-The subjects of birth control, unwanted pregnancy and abortion are not “light-hearted” topics.
I agree that overall this mom has her daughter’s best interests at heart and often it’s important in relationships for your “side” to be heard or at least put out there–especially when the subject is such an important one.
June 10, 2009 at 11:14 am
bloody hell dudes, chill out!
June 10, 2009 at 11:15 am
All women should have the morning after pill in their medicine cabinet…it’s just assurance, in case there’s a slip-up.
If an egg is already implanted, it does not remove it. You can think the morning after pill is okay, and not believe in abortion – they are not one and in, the same.
June 10, 2009 at 6:14 pm
I think a lot of the grumpy commenters are missing the possbility that the daughter is not yet 18.
June 10, 2009 at 6:30 pm
In Indonesia, even doctor never write a prescription for morning after pill.. it’s said that MAP is no effective…o gosh..!
June 10, 2009 at 7:23 pm
No one said that abortion and the like were “lighthearted” subjects..but this is postcardsfromyomomma.com, a supposedly funny website…if you feel so strongly voice your procreation rants in the proper forum.
June 10, 2009 at 7:39 pm
I don’t think abortion is a lighthearted subject either, but OY VEY folks! If more parents would have these kinds of conversations with their kids, it would be great. I guess what I saw was concern, love, humor and candor from a parent to a child. And I like that in a parent-child relationship, but that’s just me.
June 11, 2009 at 1:37 am
Very detailed! I will do this for my children someday.
All mine ever said to me was, “If you want your husband to make you your life better, you have to make him happy in the bed – especially after you have children, when you don’t feel like it and it takes effort.” But I am yet unmarried so she has not told anything else, thanks God.
June 11, 2009 at 11:07 am
I actually think this is not bad as far as The Talk goes. She’s emphasising what she and the posters father would not be ok with and being quite open minded about the alternatives and giving her the facts (like needing a prescription). I definitely took the morning after pill to mean as backup to the condoms she should always be using if the poster didn’t like being on the pill. I wish more parents would be as willing to meet their kids halfway like this!
June 15, 2009 at 3:22 pm
PS, I don’t agree with mom’s views I should say, but I do have an Arabic dad so believe me, I can appreciate this mom!
June 15, 2009 at 3:30 pm