Backstory: My mother is a medical doctor.
I found an excellent site to read about egg donation. After reading it, I STRONGLY advise NOT doing it, even though it is better than prostitution.
The site is: www.health.state.ny.us/publications/1127
Love,
Mom
I can see why someone would find this amusing, however I find it harsh coming from a doctor to compare Egg Donation to prostitution. Many couples have trouble conceiving and, to me, egg donation is quite a gift for many of those wanting a child. You can be pro or against egg donation, but I think there are other ways of expressing opinion without going to such extremes.
Sorry mom, but this time it wasn’t funny
July 28, 2009 at 10:52 am
Egg donation and prostitution are two of the main examples of the less-than-ideal ways that some people need to earn money (e.g. students). I don’t think she means to say that the two are especially similar, just that they are both ways that people try to make a bit of extra money, and that egg donation is somewhat risky, but still a better option that prostitution – perhaps BECAUSE egg donation is such a special gift to people who aren’t able to conceive naturally.
July 28, 2009 at 11:21 am
Egg donation isn’t easy on the donor’s body, and most of the time the only real reason why anyone does it is because they’re very short on cash. I’m sure there are a few who do it for altruistic reasons only…but that’s not the norm. It’s wealthy people getting a pretty great deal from poorer people, as usual. I’m with Mom, here.
July 28, 2009 at 6:33 pm
blah blah blah..ya’ll are turning a funny post about a broke college student into something BORING. I haven’t googled it, but I’m sure there are plenty of egg donation forums to express your views.
July 28, 2009 at 11:06 pm
jr, egg donation can be difficult on the donor’s body, or the donor can have no problems at all. It all depends on the donor and her body chemistry. I have two friends who have donated; one got pretty sick during the donation cycles, but she stuck it out because it was for a family member who didn’t have viable eggs. The other friend was doing it to pay for grad school, and she said she just felt “sloshy inside.” Neither woman had ill effects after the extraction, and the one who was sick felt fine as soon as the hormones wore off.
July 29, 2009 at 9:03 am
Seriously M, chill. If you’re going to get all up in arms about egg donation, you could at least show a little sympathy to the plight of prostitutes. It’s kind of insane to me that anyone would get upset about someone making a joke about EGG DONATION which is for privileged, rich people and not about prostitution and all of the societal implications that come with that. That’s seriously some twisted ish.
Also, it was a joke. Take a Valium and lie down.
July 29, 2009 at 10:31 am
Well, actually, Egg Donation isn’t only for rich people (not from where I’m from and I know people who have been through the process). Maybe the fact that I’m not from the US makes me view this in a different perspective. I don’t see why I should chill, I only said this isn’t funny and maybe it would be good for some of you to actually look at how it’s done in other countries. That could in turn, change people’s perception of fertility issues and maybe even the way it’s done in the US.
That being said, I do agree that doing it to pay for school isn’t the best idea (nor is donating sperm). That’s why I do like Jill’s interpretation of the message. Thanks for the insight
July 29, 2009 at 11:11 am
M-
You are a shining example of someone who takes life a little too seriously. Find another cause to promote and stop raining on everyone’s laughter parade. The mom’s email was a light commentary on the desperation of college students, not some rant on the pros or cons of egg donation…I agree with EJ, get one of your colleagues to write a script for Valium, drink a nice glass of wine, and RELAX!!!!
July 29, 2009 at 11:59 am
I’m interested to read that some people view egg donation as only utilized by the rich and privileged. My husband and I are blue collar working stiffs who saved our pennies to pay for an egg donor and fertility doc, had two miscarriages from those donated eggs and are still paying the bills. So thanks for your considerate words.
Like others have said, though, this was a funny post by Mom, and I laughed, until I read the comments made by a couple of judgmental people.
July 29, 2009 at 6:42 pm
If I had said “BMWs are for rich people” would you argue with it because you had scrimped and saved and bought one? And no, I’m not saying babies are bought like cars, so don’t get your feathers all ruffled. I’m just saying you validated my statement by saying you had to save your pennies to do it; ergo, you must somehow accumulate a lot of money to pay for it. I really don’t understand how you could be offended by that.
July 30, 2009 at 2:33 pm
EJ, your comparison of egg donation and BMWs is unrealistic, because, in fact, you could pay for several cycles of IVF and egg donation for the price of one BMW. For the record, the egg donor receives $3,000. The IVF cycle is approximately $2,000, and the medications are in the neighborhood of $500, depending on the donor’s needs. So yes, I would say you have to be better off financially to purchase a BMW than you do to pay someone for their time and trouble in donating eggs.
July 31, 2009 at 11:19 am
In the first place I dont think this woman was speaking as a physician but as a mother …….. and we all know they can be a little, well, crazy.
ACD, have you found your egg donor yet?? I may be too old but I certainly would not charge anyone for my eggs. that’s not right. I had two sons and dont have a daughter to harass about grandchildren, etc., so maybe I could take that out on you. ;)
j/k — i would be happy to do this as long as I wasnt out any money, though. I would not want to be paid for doing it. and for what its worth one of my kids just graduated from law school (I told you I was old) and the other is fixing to start grad school in toxicology? we are in over my head and just at the Wonderful, honey! stage now.
good luck with your IVF.
August 2, 2009 at 8:02 pm
Tina, that’s a very kind offer, and I’m sure there’s someone out there who would love to take you up on it. We did find an egg donor, and have gone through two cycles using the donated eggs, with no success. Still contemplating trying for a third time.
August 3, 2009 at 12:21 pm
My husband and I just finished our third frozen donor egg cycle and are pregnant for the first time. We don’t consider ourselves rich by any means, and at 42 am overjoyed to finally be a mum. We saved and paid for it ourselves. We could not have done it without donor eggs, and I think regardless of the motive for the donor, it is truly a gift I will treasure forever. To compare this act to prostitution is in my opinion offensive.
ACD – consider “Tiny Treasures” that’s the service we used to find our donor.
August 11, 2009 at 5:07 pm
First baby conceived from screened egg is born
http://egg-donation.blog.co.uk/2009/09/22/first-baby-conceived-from-screened-egg-is-born-7015253/
September 22, 2009 at 2:01 pm
Wow, ACD, where are you getting your eggs? My college roommate got $8000 for donating and that was 10 years ago! Even with that much cash, she said it wasn’t worth it — too debilitating, both physically and emotionally.
I know I’m going to sound like an insensitive bitch, but I just don’t understand why people don’t adopt. You’re willing to carry and birth a baby that’s not genetically yours, but not to adopt one that’s already been born?
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