Backstory: I e-mailed my mom asking her for motherly advise on how to get my boyfriend to help me clean up around our apartment.
Ok so this is advise from your friend and not your mother. You have to make him understand that you are not his mother. You can suggest that if he would like to continue to be in you good graces….ie your pants that he remembers you arent the maid or the cook. Good luck.
OMG! ie. your pants…PRICELESS!
September 15, 2009 at 4:16 pm
I like her! That’s good motivation… and it might work. Speaking as a guy… you can just get a white board and write chores on it – it is more work for you but it is kinda how us guys think. Take out garbage, put laundry away, put recycling out, etc. We see that list as the thing between us sitting and watching sports in peace. …and if there are 10 things on your list and 5 on his, it is hard to argue. Eventually, he’ll be putting things on his list for you to even things out.
September 15, 2009 at 9:15 pm
Thanks for the advice! We actually just bought a white board, so I will have to get some markers and try it out!
The best part about this is that my mom thinks I won’t take advice from her “as a mom,” so every e-mail starts out “this advice from a nurse/your friend/a wife.”
September 15, 2009 at 10:22 pm
Quit treating him like a kid. If he’s enough of a man to be in a serious relationship, he can figure out that he needs to take out the trash and cook dinner once in a while!
September 16, 2009 at 8:53 am
Break up with his douchie ass if he can’t figure out that he has to contribute!
September 16, 2009 at 9:24 am
Ohiomom, apparently you are either fortunate enough to be married to the perfect guy (i.e. – one who was already trained by someone else before you met him) or you are delusional. Most of the guys that I know, including my male roommate, need someone to tell them what to do in terms of cleaning. If I tell my roommate that he needs to take out the garbage and empty the dishwasher, he will do it right away without complaint. But if I don’t tell him, he just doesn’t think about it, and therefore doesn’t do it. And I think most guys are the same way – things have to get pretty disgusting before they realize it and do something about it.
September 16, 2009 at 2:16 pm