Backstory: After spending a day with my uncle’s rather misbehaved one-year-old, I let my mother know that if I ended up having similar children, I would be happy to send them to their grandma.

If you have a nasty kid it is yours to deal with, mother is getting old and has done her duty in the kid department and I will be more that happy to babysit but not raise.  You birth em you raise em.