Backstory: My mom died when I was 14.  Reading this site has made me realize that though I don’t have a mom, I do, at least, have her sister, who sets me (and my brother) straight about as often as a mom would.  She’s currently mad that other, out-of-touch family members have said I haven’t “gotten over” the loss.  Anyway, thank you, Post Cards from Yo Momma, for giving me a glimpse into adult mother/daughter relationships.

I just want you to know that I don’t expect to ever get over my sister’s death, and you will never get over your mother’s death.  For anyone to tell you “get over it” is foolish.  It will always be a significant part of your life, and hopefully, the greatest loss you have to suffer.  We go on, we live life, we remember all the good, and we miss her.  We won’t get over it, but the pain lessens and we can feel blessed she was in our lives at all. To this day, even your uncle says it was the saddest time of his life!

Hugs to both of you and Happy Holidays……

Auntie